The psychological aspect of Divorce

To continue off the discussion on Bill C-422 and why it is needed we would have to look at the Psychologial aspect of divorce and what brings one human being to use a child and alientate them against another. Some say it is about control others claim it is becasue of mental illness. I always look at peer reviewed materials and alot of case studies. I also always try to look from my own past experience for conclusions as myself have seen the first hands of Parental Alientation. The main thing with C-422 is to eliminate and remove the ability for one parent to use the system to harm a child's relationship with the Non-Custodial parent.

To understand what people go through is to understand seperation and divorce and the people that go through the system and the system itself. The people have decided that they as a couple will move on some have prior to the relationship ending others the reciever of the ending relationship. The person that ends the relationship will do this for mutiple reasons as you can pick up any oprah book of the week and see why this happens. The thing that seems never to get discussed is the mental states of people once this happens and what they do prior too,during and then immediately after dependant on their own mental states. The mental states of someone with a prior mental condition or during that is driven to a mentally unstable condition will do somethings that others with rational thoughts will find extreme or ludcrist at times. One thing that seems to be the common factor is the ones that go to the extreme have underlying control issues. They will call everyone or anything around them as contrls on them. The thing is usually they are the controller because of their childhood or events that happened within the enviroment they grew up in.

The enviroment I believe is one of the greatest contributers to what does happen as we become parents. The people that have been effected with violence in any form or abuse will be the greatest offenders of parental alienation. I have studied including my own a cicero style of approach to this. This approach is to look back to see what is the route cause not just the end effect and label it. The person if female and is the offender of Parental Alientation in 96% of the cases I have looked at through longitudal studies and real time overt and covert observation seem to see the same pattern. The high end being sexually exploited or abused in their youth. They also seem to have a mother that also follows the same pattern. In the case I put alot of study into showed some interesting yet disturbing facts. The offender was molested by the mothers father and the mother and her female siblings also molested by the father. In most cases where I have seen this prevelent also violence at a young age male or female has been very evident. So looking at the DSV-IV or V shows alot of mental illness is more of a chemical imbalance more than a enviromental and sociogial cause. In medicine though they have proven under extreme stress it can do some nasty things to a persons physcial chemistry. So if we take an abused individual which is during these incidents put under extreme stress and almost soul taking experiences creates an imbalance within the brain chemistry. The thing is once these chemicals are outside the norms can chemicals interventions return that persons thought pattern back to a logical norm. Yes we do have to blame the meida's of the world because they do potray the person as doing the right thing but that is for a different discussion. So this is not only a sociological but a pattern started alomst within the family geniology. So we watch the grandmother how she was and reacted to situtations and then watch the mother to the child. The one I followed closely the grandmother married young and divorced almost 20 years ago. She used everything from false allegations to direct Parental alientation towards the father. She an emotional and sexually abused person and then to see her own child emotionally and sexually abused by her own father will and has been shown in alot of the cases of sexual abuse see that they will put that on to the whole gender not just the perpetrator. So then it becomes a genrational issue or almost cyclical.

The cycle is then brought down to the next generation to the third generation. They are taught that their biological parent because of issues of seperation are now for them to deal with in todays reality. The mental illness of the previous generations are not brought by a chemical imbalance but a teaching of psychologial and socilogical deviance. The thing now and bringing the discussion back to Bill C-422 is how do we as a society break the cycle of this. How can there be a pitfall put in place that will protect the children from falling down this rabbit hole that abuse was in their genology but not a causation of the other parent. The emotionally and mentally disturbed parent that will use this form of abuse will not see it as abuse but more of their own protection mechanism of their offspring. The reality it is what they are teaching the child. One of the key factors is abuse of authority which I have discussed in previous blog writings. The custodial parent believes they are above the law and will teach the child that the justice that made a legal decision is not the law that the custodial parent is the law. Parental Alientation once a custody order is put in place is a form of contempt of court. Contempting of a court order is illegal and as probally most have seen in the movies a justice state I will hold you in contempt of court. So if someone and most do not see one justice any differently than another. So do most know the difference between a family court justice and a crimal court justice. Once people look at the amount of studies done on youth offences in the judical system see that most came from broken homes. Are you starting to see the pattern? So a custodial parents shows the child the law is not above them they are starting the psychological and socilogical training of the child that the law is not above them that they control the laws around them. Training them not only to be a controling personality type but laws are to be broken if they see without rationalization that doing this has concenquence as the custodial parent is not held in contempt of court.

So as you are starting to put the pieces together of what creates and causes the perpetrator of Alientation and Abuse and why these nessesary changes need to occur are you seeing the root causes? I will use an analogy so it fits the picture of the reason why this needs to happen. In 1974 in Canada there were no speed laws. So unless a police officer in his own discression though you were going to injure someone else would not pull you over and say you were speeding. Many studies show previous to that excessive speed leads to car crashes. So we brought forward laws to be enforced that speed limits within norms would be introduced for the protection of the Citizens of Canada. So now after years of studies and seeing the global effects which there are so many other societal cost to the way the industry is set up. So when are the politcal realm going to put a speed limit on the people that abuse children?

Bill C-422 and why its nessesary

I only write from time to time when I have a chance but this morning had a little downtime. Today Bill C-422 has started to come full circle and starting to get noticed accross the country. For those who do not know what this bill is about brings some concern but once understanding it will deem it nessesary. The bill is for a new concept of recent years called equal parenting. Equal parenting is when the custodial( parent that holds custody) and the non-custodial parent(usually made a vistor) shares in all aspects of raising their biological child. Today there are many varations of custody orders put into place by our current sitting family court judges. They are Sole Custody(one person has all say and the other parent has been near to completely removed from their childs life) and Joint Custody(which is another form of sole custody). In both of these styles of custody one person hold the controls and the non custodial parent has nothing to do besides agree even if it is not in the" Best interests of the child". In both of these arrangements the secondary parent is permitted by a family court judge an alloted time to see their biological parent. The thing is an as we get futher into the discussion why the need for Equal Parenting is needed.

Equal Parenting or otherwise refered to Equal Shared Parenting has been around for awhile but not until Australia introduced legislation did it start to get worldwide notice. Research has shown time and time again well adjusted children of divorce come from well adjusted parents. The current system works to create dysfunctionability within the child and the parent. Equal Parenting is when the parents assume the same parental roles they did previously prior to seperation or Divorce. They would spend equal time with their child and would have an equal say in how they are raised. There will always be extreme cases where the justice would have to step in and say you have done this and it has been proven so and deem an other arrangement so the safety and interests of the child are upheld. In current statistics though it shows this is only about 5-7% of cases in Canada. So 95% of canadian society falls into the other realm where this type of arrangement would best suit a child's and parents interest. The child is no longer a pawn within the industry of divorce nor subjegated to parental scorn for each other.

Some key points to understand about todays current legislation under the current act. Children are put up as chatel in a divorce case just like how the car or proprty is divided. You may think this is an extreme statement but the sad part its true. The other thing that the current system is not taking into consideration is the parents themselves. I will put this one out to you, someone that is reading this,have you ever ended or had a relationship end on you. My first question is do you think logically or emotionally? Do you first think ooh our poor child or do you think ohh that son of a %^*&. If you answered these questions honestly than we both know the answer. So you as a human being are hurt and distraught thinking they did this not we did this or the big one how are our children or child going to feel. When someone dies we go through states of grief and many times it is compared to seperation. So then the next logical step is meeting with a laywer some when it is available will go to mediation to try to solve the childs best interests. If mediation fails and one or the other party fails to agree then off to the laywers office we go. A laywer is trained to defend you, not the best interest of your child. Their goal is to get the best for you at any expense to you,your child,your wallet and especially your ex. Sounds good right? So who is the first casulties in this, a child, a person at one time you loved, the child's extended family and grandparents. So if the law is there to promote this and the laywers and judges trained to treat custody and access this way.

more to follow:

The education of the masses part 1 - case 133

I thought rather than going back to the begining of the when and why's I jumped in as an advocate for childrens rights start with the here and now. I sat on a phone with a nice fellow discussing his case. Average guy that meets all your psychological norms tests, good dad and works everyday. One of the first things I noticed from the first of the conversation that this gentleman was worried after meeting with his laywer. He like alot of men I encounter doing this is he said here is my laywers name and what do you think of him. I always try to not drill a laywer to bad because they say" Only a fool represents themselves". I think that should be changed to only a foolish judge thinks that a man without money can afford to pay the exsorbent cost of a laywer. He then asked that question well I just got served papers for primary residence, as he had looked after the child in that capcity since he and his ex seperated. The laywer that he spoke to forgot to mention things like status quo and parentus to him. So as all people that seem to call, education on the system was always the first place I have to start. Our system here in Canada has been on a downward spiral since around 1968 a year after we became a true country. The no fault divorce act as it has been deemed and the start of the destruction of the family and family value. So here is some of the beginings for people that choose to read this will understand.

We all have relationships some good, some bad and well statiscally 51% plus that result in marriage end in divorce. So if you have 10 close friends that are currently married in the first 5 years of it well they will go through this game of hell. So you ask how is that education, more of a little profescy of where you who read this may be someday. If your female, you stand a pretty good chance to take the fellow your with if you have children to the cleaners. If your male well stats that you can find 87% of custodial parents in this country are female. So looking at that you say well I have joint custody but who possesses the primary residence status. So lets take a look at the first part of a seperation.

So people grow apart, never were more than a chaser and a chasee, and well some just didn't do that main thing take a look at this person and with the quirks you both posess and say in 50 years will I be able to look at you the same way I did after the wedding night. Another key thing people go on ooh its my soul mate, fairy tale romance, well guess what they still are human and so are you. So when the fairy tale ends and reality sits in will you be able to say the same thing. Do you share common interests, do you like to do things together and still have that time for hanging with the guys or hanging with the girls. If your a parent then well that is limited especially when your kids are young. They grab alot of your attention and well are really demanding of your time. So now I painted a negative picture to some, the truth and reality to others. So I could go on what the back ground of relationships are like but when you read this an examine yours, hopefully your not calling me and saying what the hell did I do.

So in the begging of a seperation it usually goes with one person initiating it. Yes sad to say but from anywhere's you read even good ole cosmo, for the ladies, females initate the seperation. So generally from the 133 cases I have worked on over the last 10 years it is one cheated on the other, they were really better off as friends,one had deeper childhood psychologial issues that were never dealt with, and addictions, seem to top off the list as the most prevelant things I came accross. So then we as adults seperate, take a minute if you have a child and look in their eyes if your divorced and say did I hurt you when we broke up. They as children will spit and spudder because of that question. For the love of god if they are little don't do that because they are probally already confused as it is. MOre for the 13 years of age or older.This one is more for the normal people, ones that do not try to beat the hell out of each other or do just right down nasty things to each other. This is for the ones that just found out they should of never been together.

So next is you get your place I'll get mine and we both share time and responsiblty with the child. Common sense most would say. Ok when did emotion and common sense ever enter into the same equation? If your quick you know that answer never. So the person you loved or loved you just looked you in the face and said thats it, thats all ,bye bye. So yes your jumping up for joy, wait, no your not your going through the stages of divorce. Same as death we morn everything death, and so on the same way. We go through stages. The thing with this is well the casulty become the innocent bystanders called your kids.

New dad gets helping hand - Published Wednesday July 22nd, 2009

FREDERICTON - Shaun Nixon said he'd be out on the street with his four-month-old son Tobias if it hadn't been for the eleventh-hour generosity of a Fredericton firefighter.

Enlarge Photo Stephen MacGillivray PhotoStephen MacGillivray/canadaeast news serviceShaun Nixon holds his son Tobias with Shawnee Main and her son Graeson. haun Nixon said he'd be out on the street with his four-month-old son Tobias if it hadn't been for the eleventh-hour generosity of a Fredericton firefighter.

Nixon and Tobias had been living in the Comfort Inn on Prospect Street since his girlfriend abandoned them about a month ago.

But recently, he ran out of money to pay for his hotel stay and, with no family or friends nearby, he faced a daunting future.

Nixon couldn't turn to the Fredericton Men's Shelter because of Tobias and the Transition House doesn't allow men.

The government-subsidized apartment he'd secured isn't available until Aug. 1.

Nixon and Tobias had nowhere to go.

That's until Shawnee Main, a firefighter and single mom, heard about Nixon's struggles on the evening newscast.

She felt she had to do something, so she paid him a visit with words of encouragement, a pile of baby supplies and a promise to pay his hotel bill until his apartment is ready.

"It really hit me. I am a single mom with a big support system, but I couldn't imagine not knowing where my kid is going to sleep at night," she said. "(Nixon) has no family here in Fredericton that I know of.

"He must've felt pretty overwhelmed," she said. "He's a new parent and he's doing it on his own and that alone is tough. I felt for him."

"(What she did) meant everything to me," Nixon said. "I didn't have any time at all and she really saved my rear.

"Knowing that a total stranger would step up like this and help me out just means the world."

DFCS says it "missed the signs" that led to boy's death

DFCS says it "missed the signs" that led to boy's death
By MEGAN MATTEUCCI and CRAIG SCHNEIDER


The Atlanta Journal-Constitution

The state child welfare director on Monday said his agency “missed the signs” while investigating child abuse against a 6-year-old boy, a special needs student who police say was beaten to death by his mother’s boyfriend.

Enlarge photo FORSYTH COUNTY Eder Acosta, 20, is charged in the death of his girlfriend's 6 year-old son.

Mark Washington, director of the state Division of Family and Children Services, said the agency responded to four prior complaints regarding trouble in Bryan Guzman-Moreno’s Forsyth County home.

“I can see we missed asking the right questions, bringing in the right specialists and making the right decisions at the right time,” Washington said. “I have very strong concerns and questions about what I see.”

Police say the mother’s boyfriend, 20-year-old Eder Acosta of Cumming, beat Bryan to death Thursday.

Acosta, who is not the boy’s natural father, was arrested Saturday for Bryan’s death, Forsyth County Sheriff’s spokesman Capt. Frank Huggins said. He allegedly attacked Bryan early Thursday after taking the boy’s mother, Laura Moreno, to work at 6 a.m. He returned to the mobile home the couple shared and began beating Bryan, Huggins said.

“By 6:30 a.m., the boy was at the hospital in full cardiac arrest,” Huggins said Monday.

State Child Advocate Tom Rawlings said he is also looking into the case. He said Acosta had been accused in January of hitting the boy.

Rawlings said the January accusation was among three complaints to DFCS of child abuse against Bryan. He said there was another complaint involving a fight between two uncles in the home.

Rawlings said that in January, another child of the boy’s mother had said he did not want to be in that house because his mother and her boyfriend fight a lot.

The sibling also said that Acosta had on one occasion hit Bryan hard on the leg with his fist because the boy would not go to the bathroom, Rawlings said.

Rawlings said DFCS worked with the family for some months after that, but it remains unclear whether the agency had an open case on the boy at the time of his death.

The state child advocate is a post appointed by the governor to watch over state child welfare services.

In September 2008, DFCS looked into a complaint regarding a bruise on Bryan’s thigh, and in November of last year, DFCS looked into a report of scratches on the boy’s face, he said.

The agency did not substantiate either of those instances as child abuse, he said.

Washington, the DFCS director, said “hot buttons” and “cues” were missed during the agency’s work on the cases involving Bryan.

Noting that the boy was uncooperative and had difficulty communicating, Washington said the DFCS workers should have brought in specialists who work with children with such conditions.

Washington said he is not sure exactly what was missed.

“It’s very important that we learn what we missed, why we missed it, and how we improve our practice.”

On Thursday, Acosta assaulted the boy and drove him to the emergency room at Northside Hospital-Forsyth, deputies said.

“He told the ER he [the boy] had a medical problem and stopped breathing,” Huggins said.

The boy was later transferred to Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta at Egleston, where he was pronounced dead.

An autopsy showed the boy died from blunt force trauma. Coroners found extensive internal injuries to the boy’s head and body, Huggins said. The injuries were not visible when Acosta brought the boy to the emergency room.

Huggins declined to release details about the attack, including if a weapon was used.

Acosta is being held without bond in the Forsyth County jail on charges of murder, cruelty to children and aggravated battery.

The boy, who attended special needs classes, was scheduled to enter first grade next month at Sawnee Elementary School in Cumming, Forsyth County Schools Superintendent Buster Evans said.

Two other children, including a 1-year-old and an 11-year-old, were home at the time of the attack. They were not injured and have since been turned over to DFCS, Huggins said.

Deputies interviewed the boy’s mother, and she’s not expected to be charged, Huggins said. Several other relatives who live with the family were also interviewed.

Huggins declined to say if Acosta has a prior criminal record. However, he said Acosta had never been arrested by the Forsyth County Sheriff’s Office, and deputies had never been to the couple’s home prior to the murder.


Staff writer Katie Leslie contributed to this article.

The Reality of Equal Shared Parenting Around the World and Canada - by Edward Hoyt, Founder of " New Brunswick Childrens Equal Parenting Association"

To Start this I would like to quote British senior judge Mr. Justice Coleridge, responsible for family courts across South-West England from the Daily Mail.

"Family life is in ‘meltdown’. Family breakdown is a “cancer” behind almost every evil affecting the country. Mr Justice Coleridge blames youth crime, child abuse, drug addiction and binge-drinking on the “meltdown” of relations between parents and children. He warns that the collapse of the family unit is a threat to the nation as bad as terrorism, crime, drugs or global warming.

The speech to family lawyers contains a fierce attack on the “neglect” of successive governments. The 58-year-old judge, who is married with three grown-up children, will say family breakdown is an epidemic affecting all levels of society from the Royal Family down. It is “on a scale, depth and breadth which few of us could have imagined even “a decade ago. It is a never-ending carnival of human misery. A ceaseless river of human distress. “I am not saying every broken family produces dysfunctional children but I am saying that almost every dysfunctional child is the product of a broken family.”

The judge, who is in charge of family courts across South-West England, will say he has a duty to speak out. He will call on the Government to put the family at the top of its agenda, alongside the economy and the war on terror – and make it “rather more important than taking oaths of allegiance”. His speech will say: “Families are the cells which make up the body of society. If the cells are unhealthy and undernourished, or at worse cancerous and growing haphazard and out of control, in the end the body succumbs. “In some of the more heavily populated urban areas, family life is quite frankly in meltdown or completely unrecognisable . . . it is on an epidemic scale. In some areas of the country family life in the old sense no longer exists.”

The judge condemns families with a mother and several absentee fathers. He says: “Single parents often do a fantastic job, but a great many, perhaps through no fault of their own, do not. “A large number of families now consist of children being brought up by mothers who have children by a number of different fathers, none of whom take any part in their lives or support or upbringing. “These are not isolated, oneoff cases. They are part of the stock-in-trade of the family courts.”

Judge Coleridge has spent the past eight years presiding over cases of divorce, children in care and family break-up.”
(Coleridge, Daily Mail, 4 April 2008) "

To introduce this I will give a little background on myself. I have been a parent for nineteen years as a "Single Father" of my son as his natural mother has by her own choice never been involved in his life. I have also been a"Parentally Alienated" father of a near 15 year old daughter. I have been in the " Equal Parenting" movement in Canada for 10 years now and seen first hand the damage that our current system does to children. I beleive by people and politican's alike reading what other countries are doing may bring a little light on how far behind here in Canada we really are when it comes to parenting. I have worked with some of the orginal founding parents of the Shared Parenting movement and the new, as they have appeared over the years. I have witnessed and participated in court cases here in New Brunswick and Canada as an observer and an active participant. In the 10 years that I have been in this; I have witnessed everything from Shared Parenting by choice working to murder cases because of the adverseral systems curently in place. I do not hold a PHD from a university but do hold a degree in the school of life. The last count of peer reviewed studies, magizine articles and books on the subject of Equal Parenting that I have read is 1109.I have written in News Papers and Magizines in Canada on the topic but beleive that more knowledge nees to be out there for the public.This article shows the different legislations shown from different countries and is a framework in which Canada must start to adopt before it is too late.


To begin the different countries I will start with Germany as they were the first to come forward with true changes towards "Shared Parenting".

Germany - 1998

Germany has a post-divorce presumption of joint legal custody was already in effect in family law since 1998, when several years ago the family court judge Jurgen Rudolph a German Regional Family Court justice in the city and district of Cochem.

The German "Federal Ministry of Justice" in Berlin states they still will introduce more postive changes even with the Cochem model "Cochemer Modell" and Cochem Court Practises,"Cochemer Praxis" to create an even more child centric model. This in Germany has recieved country-wide acknolegment as being the best practice for child centered approach to child custody arrangements.

In his courtroom was continuously confronted with more than capable parents fighting each other with the assitance of their lawyers over post-seperation arrangements concerning the residence, care and access over their children and was demanded to decide in favour of one parent. Parents and lawyers from both sides seemed to be only involved in painting their adversarial ‘opponents’ as black and incapable as possible during the divorce proceedings in the family court.

The position he took in this was that he considered post-divorce physical custody arrangements between principally fit and capable parents. This was at that time not to be a standard-decision for the family court and himself as the family judge to make and decide on by default that one parent would have custody the other become non-custodial or as we refer to as a vistor. That lawfully existing care-obligation in Germany for both parents to care for their children the making of physical custody arrangements over their children had by default to be considered primarily as a matter of responsibility for both the divorcing parents themselves to decide on in the first place.

Proceeding this and him witnessing in-fights between parents and their lawyers taking place in adversarial divorce proceedings, the regional family court of Cochem then experimented by changing its family court practises. The new revolutionary family court practice divorcing parents were strongly encouraged by the court to first come up themselves with a mutually and consensually agreed “Parenting Plan” for the residency, care and access to and over their children, as a mandatory precondition before being able to enter and finalise their divorce settlements in the Cochem family court.

As the parents now needed to come up with a mutually agreed parenting plan or parenting arrangement proposal, this mandatory demand of the court both not only resulted in a reinstatement of the equal level playing field and cooperation between the parents looking for divorce (instead of the previous court practises magnifying the differences and conflicts between the parents). But equally important, it also lead to a complete practise overhaul within the professions involved in the divorce proceedings in the family court.

Rather than adding fuel to the fire in an already adverserial situtation, the parents in their conflict, Lawyers, Social Workers, Youth Welfare Workers, began cooperating with each other in order to offer mediation and other support services and help to the divorcing parents who were in need of support in making the parenting plan needed in order to finalise their divorce proceedings. It did take time but the cooperation between professionals evolved from cooperation on the individual case levels created a more structured network cooperation of the involved professions around the "Cochem Family Court."

Spain - 2005

They introduced a new shared parenting law which is regarded as wholly inadequate by Spanish family rights lobbyists. Government officials and professionals on their own initiative are attempting to introduce policies reintegrating alienated children with their alienated parents and there is a vigorous movement for change.

Belgium - September 2006

The Socialist Party implemented presumptive 50/50 joint physical custody legislation reffered to as effective bi-location of the child,after parental separation by the Belgian Federal Government on September 4th,2006. This was approved by the Belgium "House of Commons" and "Senate" and brought into legislation. It introduced an immediate unilateral court-access for either of the divorced or separated parents in requesting for additional reinforcement orders if needed. It also introduced a presumption of dual location or shared residency which by law should be taken into serious consideration and thorough investigation with priority in each individual case by the Belgian family courts and judges on the request of either one of the divorcing parents separately.

In the situation where both separating parents consensually forward shared residency, care and access proposals between the two of them in the divorce and separation proceedings, the law puts the Belgian family courts and judges under the obligation to accept those mutually consented proposals as leading in the court-orders to be subsequently imposed in the divorce and separation proceedings.

In effect with regard to the post-divorce residency, care and access arrangements of either parents involved were then again acknowledged and reinstated at the core of Belgian family law and family court proceedings regarding physical custody, residency and care. By law Belgian family court judges were obligated to explicitly specify in their court-orders, their decisions and provisions with regard to the imposed post-divorce residence and care arrangements in writing if they were to deviate from the presumptive and preferred bi-location or shared parenting arrangement in their court-orders and reasoning behind the altering. These new Belgian laws have put "Shared Parenting" at the forefront of the family courts decision-making regarding the care, access and residency of the children. The legislation while the need and obligation imposed by law on the Belgian Family Courts and judges to extensively specify in writing in their imposed court-orders as to why a shared parenting or bi-location order was not imposed, opens the possibility for appeal of the courts decisions and motivations.

The underestimated new portion of the "Belgian Family Law" reform is the introduction of immediate or priority access to the courts and judges on the request of either one of the parties in conjuction or individually. This can be activated unilaterally and individually as they can proceed without the need of legal represention by a lawyer at the court-session requested, for an additional reinforcement orders of the court."When court-ordered parenting arrangements were not sufficiently complied with by the other parent and when there were complaints about the other parent with regard to abiding by the specific parenting arrangements laid down by the judge in the original case residency, care and access orders."

This laws framework has been around for 3 years and is in its infancy stages to evaluate its effects but first impressions that it will contribute to "The Best Interest of the Children" involved and now will adjust under the care of the non-confrontational but separated parents.


Italy - March 2006

The use of "Joint Legal Custody" and portions of "Joint Physical Custody" are now introduced. .On March 16,2006 this change became effective.


Australia - 2006

The introduction of " Shared Parenting Legislation" and Family Dispute Resolution to help people affected by separation and divorce sort out their dispute as an alternative to going to court. A family dispute resolution practitioner is an independent person who can help people discuss issues, look at options and work out how best to reach agreement in disputes about children and parenting arrangements after family breakdown. There still today through seeing social media's,Facebook,Twitters etc. that there are still along way to go even in Austrilia.

USA and Canada - 2009

In the United States there have been a few states there have been "Shared Parenting" bills but the norm in the USA is still archaic custody arrangements pitting parent against parent and children being the losers.

Introduced this year in Canada; Bill C-422 by Maurice Valacott; MP, a "Shared Parenting Bill", after many pressure groups approached this Member of Parliment. This was to start the process to move towards a more functionable and 21st Century approach to parenting. In Saint John, New Brunswick on July 31,2009 a meeting will be held by " The New Brunswick Children's Equal Parenting Association" in conjuction with " The Canadian Equal Parenting Coalition" to introduce this bill to people and why it is the nessesary move for well adjusted children and Families in Canadian Society. The "Social Movement" towards equal parenting being spearheaded by these groups and others such as " FACT - Fathers are Capable Too" from the 1990's and newcommers such " Not All Dad's are Dead Beats" are challenging the social fabric of Canada. The basis of many studies done from the orginal founders of the "Equal Parenting "movement to today's leaders all see the same outcome "Equal Shared Legal Custody".

All of the studies done from writers such as " Warren Farrell" and professor of social work and family studies at the University of British Columbia " Edward Kruk" state the evolution of two natural born parents create a more adjusted and functionable society. In the meantime here in Canada we are still in the "Infancy Stages" but progressing rapidly into an more forward thinking and having notice taken by the political forefront of Canada. I believe that it is more a common sense principal to be adopted into our Judicary and Legislations. In the long term of these changes will create a stable growth in Population and more of a well adjusted society.

Edward Hoyt

Founder

New Brunswick Children's Equal Parenting Association

Marginalized fathers capitalize on unofficial Fatherless Day
June 17, 9:09 PM
California protesters for equal parental rights
A special group of California dads will be gathering at the state capital in Sacramento Friday to honor and bring attention to their missing and exploited children. Left behind and marginalized fathers and their supporters will be gathering at state capitals across the country on June 19th, unofficial Fatherless Day, to communicate the necessity of equal parenting rights.Acknowledging that some mothers lose contact with their children by way of the same corruption, equal parenting advocates say this week is for the dads. National representative Donald Tenn said he can't keep up with the calls and emails coming into Fathers 4 Justice, especially now. "This week is one of the hardest for most of the dads I know," said Tenn, whose daughter Madison was abducted to Illinois by her mother Shannon Phillips three years ago.
Madison's daddy Donald Tenn
These men say they've been robbed of their right and duty to be fathers by a corrupt legal system. Claiming the current family court system not only ignores, but rewards deceit, they point to this video of Nancy Schaefer speaking of how corruption in family courts devastates parents and children, including families of divorce. Tenn told the story of a local father who missed his children so much he became overcome with grief. On a website describing his plight, the father had included plans to commit suicide. After being contacted by fathers advocates the man changed his mind and took down the website. "He now has hope," Tenn explained, "it's all I can give him, but at least I can give him that."
Fatherless rally in Sacramento '08
Northern California father Nate posted to the California Fathers 4 Justice forum, "For the past five years I have felt I was alone. No one could understand what I was up against, not even my parents or siblings." "There is unity when you align yourself with like-minded individuals," responded Fathers 4 Justice member Robert Saunders, "I see empowerment as one of the most important things a wronged parent can do to gain and maintain the strength to fight the oppressive, immoral and corrupt anti-family court system. Those interested in family law reform are encouraged to meet Friday at the north steps of the capital at 9:00 am. Participants will lobby with legislators, then return to the north steps at noon to rally until 3:00 pm. Last year's speeches, like Tenn's story of his daughter's abduction drew tears, indignation and applause. (Tenn's speech here)Nate spoke for many marginalized parents who I've spoken with when he wrote, "They can take our freedom, our money, our rights, but they can not take our love for our children."